why do guys drop off the face of the earth?

I'm kind of craving some play time lately. I can't believe that I haven't dated a Bachelor since January. This just seems like way to long to go without a date. It's not like I haven't been trying either, but it seems that I just can't connect with the right ones. I've started talking with a few decent guys and we've even exchanged phone numbers, but at some point they seem to just drop off the face of the earth. Why do guys do that? I could understand if I got a vibe or maybe said something to offend, but it's like they just suddenly give up one day. I wish they would at least give me the chance to charm them when we meet in person.

The other trend I'm noticing is that guys want to be pen pals. They send me e-mail after e-mail, but never ask me out. I just don't get this. I'd rather exchange a few e-mails and maybe some texts and then just make plans to meet in person. Do guys just not know how to date?

I feel like I'm starting to run out of options here. My match.com subscription expires in a few months and OKC hasn't really been doing much for me. My best bet lately has been with FetLife, but most of those guys are more play partner material and I'd sort of like to find a boyfriend. I've had more than a few people suggest I just take a break, but I can't. I spent most of my 20's not looking for a guy and I feel that I need to put forth some sort of effort. Everyone says that I will find someone when I'm not looking and I sort of feel like that's a bullshit comment. Clearly prince charming hasn't found me yet. Chances are he's been swallowed into the black hold with most of my bachelors and potential bachelors.

Summer Reads

If you are any sort of a book person (or just don't live under a rock) you have probably heard people talk about Fifty Shades of Grey. Go ahead and read it, but let me warn you...the writing is terrible. I'm pretty sure that I could have written a less contrite version of this book. Also, I guess you could consider it 'mommy porn', but I really didn't find it all that scandalous. However, that could be because I've had some pretty diverse lovers who are into BDSM so maybe it just isn't that out there for me. This book is part of a trilogy, but I haven't read the other two (yet).

If you are looking for something erotic to keep your summer hot then you might want to give these other books a try: The Sleeping Beauty Series by Anne Rice, The Story of O by Anne Desclos and I've just purchased The Safety of Unknown Cities by Lucy Taylor.

Here are some other summer reading suggestions for those of you who want to keep it clean:

Sacre Blue by Christoper Moore - He is one of my favorite authors and this one takes you to and a mystery surrounding Van Gogh's death. If you haven't read Lamb yet please do. It's my favorite book by him. If you like snark and satire then you will love Christoper Moore

I just started reading Soulless by Gail Carriger. This is the first book in the Parasol Protectorate Series and I can really see myself getting into these books. It's set in Victorian London and the main character is worthy of a delicious British mystery series. The only difference is that this is a paranormal type mystery. You know I love me some vamps and werewolves and this has not disappointed thus far.

Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn. I actually haven't read anything by Flynn yet, but I keep meaning to. She writes twisted murder/suspense books and this one has been flying off the shelves at my store.

Wild by Cherly Strayed. This is Oprah's new book club pick, but don't let that turn you away. Strayed hiked the Pacific Rim trail by herself and this is her memoir of that hike. A really good adventure/finding yourself read. I think people who liked Eat, Pray Love will like this book.

And then there are these books which are follow ups to books I love (and, oddly, a lot of them are part of a trilogy)

Insurgent by Veronica Roth (follow up to Divergent). I can't wait to read about what happens to Tris Prior in a dystopian Chicago.

Shadow of Night by Deborah Harkness (follow up to A Discovery of Witches). Witches and vamps...oh my!

The Twelve by Justin Cronin (follow up to The Passage). Post apocalyptic vampire tale continues.

Serpents Kiss by Melissa de la Cruz (follow up to Witches of East End). Do you sense my theme of witches and the supernatural?